Perimenopause & Menopause: What No One Told You (But Should Have)
You’re Not Crazy. It’s Just Your Hormones.
At 37, I worked in a bioidentical hormone clinic in Austin, TX. My hormones were humming along, my labs were perfect, and I felt amazing. But the real gift?
I saw what was coming.
Woman after woman walked through that door looking like they had just survived a war they didn’t sign up for.
Common Symptoms of Perimenopause and Menopause
Hot Flashes – One second, fine. The next? Sweating through their clothes, stripping down in the kitchen like they’re at a one-woman burlesque show.
Night Sweats – Going to bed dry, waking up looking like they swam laps in their own pajamas.
Frozen Shoulder – “Why can’t I lift my arm to put on a bra?!” Surprise.
Brain Fog + WTF Fatigue – Brilliant, capable women suddenly forgetting their own damn names and drinking coffee like it’s a life raft.
Weight Gain That Makes No Sense – They’re doing everything “right,” but belly fat is showing up like an unwanted houseguest who won’t leave.
The worst part? Most women think it’s their fault.
They blame themselves.
They think they just need to "push through."
They think they’re failing at life.
NO. HELL NO.
Your body is not failing you—it’s asking for help.
What You Need to Know About Perimenopause & Menopause
1. Most Doctors Are NOT Trained for This
Fact: Most OB-GYNs and primary care doctors get only 1–2 hours of menopause training in medical school. That’s why many women walk away from doctor’s visits with vague diagnoses like “stress” or “aging.”
This isn’t just aging. This is a hormonal shift that affects every part of your body.
2. Estrogen Is Running the Show
Your brain, bones, metabolism, skin, joints, and emotions all rely on estrogen. So when it starts declining in perimenopause (which can start in your late 30s or early 40s), you feel it.
If your doctor isn’t talking about estrogen levels, you might not be getting the full picture.
3. Find a Hormone Specialist
Not all doctors are created equal. Find a specialist in hormone therapy and menopause care.
Dr. Mary Claire Haver has a vetted list of menopause specialists.
Search for a local menopause expert in your area.
You don’t have to suffer in silence. You deserve a doctor who understands this stage of life.
4. Strength Training Is a Game-Changer
Lifting weights isn’t about aesthetics—it’s about keeping muscle, bone density, and metabolism strong as estrogen levels decline.
I just got my 20lb dumbbells and started following Holly Rilinger’s strength training programs—and let me tell you, it’s a game-changer.
Start now. Your future self will thank you.
5. Be Kind to Yourself
What worked five years ago might not work now. That’s not failure—it’s biology.
I lost 50 lbs in 2020 and felt unstoppable. Fast forward? That same plan doesn’t work anymore. My body has changed. Instead of blaming myself, I’m learning what this version of me needs.
Lesson: Adapt with your body, not against it.
The Best Decision I Ever Made for My Hormones
At 51, I started hormone replacement therapy (HRT)—and hands down, it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done for my health.
I swear by it.
I’m 54 now, and most days? I feel like I’m in my 30s.
At 37, I knew this was a gift my future self would thank me for. And damn, was I right.
I’m grateful every single day that I had a front-row seat to this knowledge—and now, I want to pass it on to you.
Because if there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s this:
You don’t have to suffer. You just need the right information, the right support, and the permission to do what’s best for your body.
Why Taking Care of Your Hormones Helps You With Money
My gifted profession may be that of a money coach, but underneath that gift is a woman who wants to age well, live long, and stay strong—because I know my health directly impacts my ability to create, earn, and enjoy my wealth.
When our hormones are out of whack, we make decisions from a place of exhaustion, brain fog, and stress. We second-guess ourselves. We feel overwhelmed. We procrastinate on big financial moves.
But when we take care of our bodies? We show up differently. We feel clearer, more energized, and more in control—not just of our health, but of our finances, our businesses, and our ability to build wealth on our terms.
So if you want more confidence with money? Start by taking care of you.
Let’s Talk About It
The silence around menopause makes it harder. So let’s break it.
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One last thing…
My mom turns 81 this year. In February, she went zip-lining in Costa Rica.
If she can fly through the jungle, we can figure this menopause thing out.
You are not alone. And you are definitely not crazy.